Kit: gimme the stick.
Bonnie: nope.
Have you ever stopped yourself in the middle of a situation and just asked: what do I want from this? It’s only in recent years I’ve become comfortable with putting boundaries in place, with saying no, but also saying ‘I want that’ and learning to be ok with the outcome whether I get what I want or not. The point is I’m not sure I ever used to ask myself what I really wanted, and it’s easy to get lost in fulfilling other’s needs as you feel productive and loved. I suppose the truth then is that giving everyone else what they want can become an avoidance tactic – a way of not having to go through the discomfort of sitting with the true self and working towards what we really want as it will inevitably mean a number of failures or ‘nos’ along the way. Weirdly now I’m better at putting my own boundaries in place, I’m a lot better at accepting other people’s.
Kit didn’t get this stick from Bonnie, but he did get over himself, then go and find another stick… dogs are the best teachers.
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